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Dating Essentials: Making Eye Contact

Look 'em in the eye when you're on the lookout for love

Here is a fact, people don't make eye contact. They should and they do look at each other, but they look away when the other person looks back. Look at the commuters on a subway platform or in a subway carriage. They look at anything except each other. They use devices such as ads and books and papers so that they don't look at each other. Why? Because when we look at each other and make eye contact something very personal happens. It is as if we can see inside each other and see what they are thinking. It is the opening to a conversation. Looking at strangers is a personal introduction.

My team Futsal

Mentally and physically strong.....


You need to be real fast....your movement, your eyes, your decisions, think fast....

Keep on marking player when defending all the time even if you are a striker...

If everyone of your team do exactly like this, now only see how efficient is your opponent's players techniques to get past you...

When attacking, always give your teammates options when he has the ball...Positioning is important...

Passing must be accurate all the times. There should be no mistakes at all since you're playing with 5 or 7 players in a small pitch....

The last part is you techniques....

Dealing with stress at work

Get organised...

If you've got a million and one things to do, but no system written down on paper or your computer, you're in trouble. The mind is not the most efficient engine on earth when it comes to recalling a myriad of competing tasks, so note them down ang assign each a priority. Get sorted!

Drink up...

Keeping the brain hydrated makes your grey matter synapses to transmit information easier. If you feel yourself getting sluggish upstairs, remember to drink araound 1.5 litres of water a day.

Reach for the fish...

Similarly, Fish oil helps lubricates the brain and encourage mental clarity. Consuming 1000mg of fish oil a day should assist you in staying on the ball.

B vitamins...

B vitamins assist the body handle stress by providing support to the adrenal glands. These are best taken in the morning so as not to keep you buzzing at night.

Limit interruptions...

Taking personal calls at work?. This is fine occasionally, but don't get into big catch ups on work time. It will take you that much longer to get back in the zone. Politely explain to friends or family that you're working and will return their call that evening, or even on the weekend.

Talk it over...

If you have a manager and you're not handling your work load, bring it up!. The solution could be as simple as delegating or getting some de stressing time in lieu. Sometimes we can be prone to mulling on things for so long, problems can seem much larger than they are. If chatting to your supervisor fails, you may consider approaching a human resources staff member.

Walk it off...

Exercise! The stress busting benefits of getting active are well known. Find something you enjoy and schedule it into your calendar. That way it becomes a date - one you're less likely to break.

How to develop good communication skills

Know what communication really is. Communication is the process of transferring signals/messages between a sender and a receiver through various methods (written words, nonverbal cues, spoken words). It is also the mechanism we use to establish and modify relationships....

....Manifest constructive attitudes and beliefs. The attitudes you bring to communication will have a huge impact on the way you compose yourself and interact with others. Choose to be honest, patient, optimistic, sincere, respectful, and accepting of others. Be sensitive to other people's feeling, and believe in others' competence.....

....Make eye contact. Whether you are speaking or listening, looking into the eyes of the person with whom you are conversing can make the interaction more successful. Eye contact conveys interest, and encourages your partner to be interested in you in return. In less intimate settings, when giving a speech or when in front of several people, holding the eyes of different members of your audience can personalize what you are saying and maintain attention.....

....Be aware of what your body is saying. Body language can say so much more than a mouthful of words. An open stance with arms relaxed at your sides tells anyone around you that you are approachable and open to hearing what they have to say. Arms crossed and shoulders hunched, on the other hand, suggest disinterest in conversation or unwillingness to communicate. Often, communication can be stopped before it starts by body language that tells people you don't want to talk. Appropriate posture and an approachable stance can make even difficult conversations flow more smoothly.....

Have courage to say what you think! Be confident in knowing that you can make worthwhile contributions to conversation. Take time each day to be aware of your opinions and feelings so you can adequately convey them to others. Individuals who are hesitant to speak because they do not feel their input would be worthwhile need not fear; what is important or worthwhile to one person may not be to another and may be more so to someone else. In a world so very big, someone is bound to agree with you, or to open your eyes to an even deeper perspective. The courage to say what you think can afford you the opportunity to learn more than you knew before.....

....Speak clearly enough to be heard. When you are saying what you think, have the confidence to say it so as to be heard. An appropriate tone and volume can inform listeners that you mean what you say, you have thought about what you are saying, and what you are saying is worth hearing. Using proper inflection helps ensure that your listeners hear exactly what you are saying, and reduces possibilities for misunderstanding.....

....Practice. Developing advanced communication skills begins with simple interactions. Communication skills can be practiced every day in settings that range from the more social to the more professional. New skills take time to refine, but each time you use your communication skills you open yourself to opportunities and future partnerships.....

....Develop effective listening skills. Not only should one be able to speak effectively, one must listen to the other person's words and engage in communication on what the other person is speaking about. Avoid the impulse to listen only for the end of their sentence so that you can blurt out the ideas or memories that come to your mind while the other person is speaking.....

How to be nice to people

Haven't you always wanted to be nice to people? To have them be nice back? Being nice is not difficult, but it needs some polishing for others to realize your effort. A smile on your face makes others smile also. A kind word to someone, or holding a door open to the person who is about to enter, is really easy to do, and in the long run will make you happy also.

Smile to everybody you meet will urge the other person to smile back. A smile a day is the essential movement to niceness, and even if the girl is your worst enemy ever, muster a little smile and mutter a 'hi'. But don't do this in the morning if someone looks like they're half asleep, just nod to them unless they offer a response of their own.

Greet everybody you know, not only with that smile, but also a 'hello'. If you have the time, try to introduce yourself to everybody you meet and don't know yet. Chances are that one of the hundreds you get to know will become your best friend into your old age!

Get a conversation started. Talk about small stuff that you know the person would be interested in. If you don't know the other person well enough to know about their preferences, try to talk about things happening around you. (The meeting you've both been to an hour ago, the new guy in Math class, the fantastic new shoes your colleague has been wearing, etc.)

Try to compliment your new pal. But be careful, though, not to flatter them too much. Too much flattery can give the impression that you are sucking up to them, and especially if this new friend is a superior, they will think of you as a lapdog or butt-kisser.

Make arrangements to meet or talk almost every week. Remember to exchange contact methods. Get her email, grab his address, ask for their phone number. Don't leave without getting their personal info if you really like him/her! (However, if they balk at supplying contact information, do not harass them trying to get it. Be nice, smile, and offer to run into them again some day.)

Get them something nice once in a while. And for holidays or birthdays, buy something really special that you know s/he will really appreciate. It doesn't need to be something super expensive. A box of chocolates, a new notebook, if you really mean it, your friend will get the message and be nicer to you too.

Be polite to others. Help when needed, even to people you have never met before. That person might be lonely, and you may be the only one they have talked to that day. Imagine how happy they will be...and you will be happy also, knowing you have been nice to someone.

Don't curse. It projects an ugly image of you.

Be nice to "everyone", even those who have been nasty to you. Who knows? They might start being nice to you, too! And if they don't, at least you are being decent.

Be eager to offer help. Especially to those who have a their arms full, children they are attending to, difficulty walking, or carrying heavy articles, etc. One day, you might be like them, and need help also.

Offer to help clean up after a party or a get-together. The host might be tired, and welcome your help.

Always remember to treat people the way you would like to be treated. If you are nice to people they will treat you in the right manner, and if you horrible to people they won't ever treat you nicely.

If people are nasty to you, always treat them nicely even though you don't want to. It will come in use one day.

If you have people who are very ill-mannered to you, never act the same way back, because they won't be a difference between you two, you will be as bad as each other.

How to interpret romantic body language

A smile – If he smiles at you, take it as a good sign. It’s an even better sign if she gives you a hundred-watt smile—full set of teeth, and maybe gums, showing. This is more than a casual smile. It signals interest in you.
The eyes have it – But a smile is not enough to determine romantic interest. We have all, especially women, been taught to smile. It is a polite, hospitable social custom that, by itself, may only signal politeness. If the smile, however, is combined with certain “eye behaviors,” the chances are much greater that you have sparked a romantic interest in him. These eye behaviors are easy to identify. If she casts a lingering look at you—a glance that lasts more than a few seconds—she is sending you a romantic invitation. He is saying the same thing if he looks at you, looks away, then looks back at you. If she boldly stares at you, however, she may be telling you to “back off.” Proceed with caution. A touch speaks volumes – If he gives you these smile and eye signals, and you return them, you should be talking soon. Once you are physically close to each other, the next sign of romantic interest is a touch. This should never be a touch on a sexual body part; that’s much too bold. Instead, watch for her to lightly brush your arm as she reaches for her drink. If you’re sitting beside each other, and he turns toward you, watch for his knees to lightly graze yours. Maybe she’ll ask you what time it is while touching your wristwatch. Maybe he’ll pull a stray hair off of your sweater. Subtle touches like these are sure signs that the man or women is romantically interested in you.

Mirroring – By now, you should have no doubt that he is romantically interested in you. But just to make sure, watch for her to mimic your body movements and gestures. If you’re both sitting, lean forward in your chair toward him. He will lean forward toward you if he is romantically interested. Touch your face as you’re talking to her. If she is romantically interested in you, she should touch her face a few seconds later. Mirroring your movements and gestures, especially when combined with the other steps, are sure signs of romantic interest.

How to issue good directives as a Supervisor

A supervisor within an organization must often issue directives to persons he or she is supervising (subordinates). There are both good ways and bad ways to issue directives. In order for the tasks assigned to be achieved effectively and efficiently by those working beneath the supervisor, it is important for the supervisor to issue good, clear, understandable, and concise directives. The steps in this article will help you as a supervisor understand what constitutes good directives so that you may incorporate these strategies when you issue directives to employees you are supervising.

Be reasonable - As the supervisor, you should not issue a directive if the employee receiving the directive does not have the experience, ability, and/or willingness to comply.

Be understandable - As the supervisor, you should make certain that employees understand your directives by speaking words that are familiar to the employees and by using feedback to ensure that your employees understand your directives.

Be specific - As the supervisor, you should state clearly what it is that you expect from your employees in terms of quality and quantity of work performance.

Set time limits - As the supervisor, you should specify time limits within which work tasks should be accomplished.

Be congruent - As the supervisor, your supervisory directives must be compatible with the mission, vision, core values, philosophy, regulations, policies, and ethical standards of your organization.

Use appropriate tone, wording and phrasing - As the supervisor, you should state a directive as a request using a considerate and polite tone.

How to be punctual

If you're battling chronic lateness, there is hope. According to the experts, you can avoid procrastination and tardiness by changing your habits and tweaking your routines. Here are some things you can do to turn lateness into punctuality.

Acknowledge that you are a person who is having a hard time being punctual. As with any problem, you cannot fix it if you're in denial that it's a problem at all.

Be conscious of the time, keep your watch accurate, keep a clock, phone, computer or anything that displays time in each room of your house.

Don't be an optimist. Things usually take significantly longer than you'd expect, even without major delays. Wake up when you're supposed to wake up, commit yourself to being 15 minutes early for everything, bring something you can read in short segments almost everywhere you go, Re-examine how long your daily tasks really take. Watch yourself for a few days to see where you often waste the most time.Make a note of where you should be in regards to time.

Keep organized. Disorganization is directly related to lateness.

Plan ahead, schedule something unimportant right before something very important, pick out your clothes the night before, If you are going to some unfamiliar place, look over a map, or even drive there once if at all possible. If you are depending on another person for a ride—have a plan B!.

Go to sleep on time. This makes it a lot easier to get up on time and helps you stay on task during the day.

How to make people think you are confident

The most attractive attribute in a person is confidence. Even if you are not confident in yourself you can trick people into thinking that you are.

Ask questions of any kind. Sometimes asking silly questions is the best way to boost confidence, and people greatly admire those who show no fear of being judged. You have nothing to prove to anyone; be silly, be spontaneous, have fun conversations. These are really good ways to prove to others that you are confident.

Hold your head up high. Have tall, straight posture.

Make eye contact. Don't look down or from side to side.

When shaking hands, have a firm grip, but not too firm!

Speak loudly and clearly. Think before you speak so you have a clear idea of what to say. If you tend to jumble words in an attempt to rush through what you're saying, slow down.

Smile. Always show your pearly whites.

Laugh. Make it look like you are always having fun. Laugh at your mistakes; you'll seem more happy.

Keep busy. Don't just stand around. Meet new people. Share a funny joke, join clubs, do social things.

Take compliments gracefully by always smiling and saying a simple "thank you." If someone pays you a compliment, do not respond by putting yourself down. If possible, compliment the other person in your response (for instance, by saying something like "Oh, how sweet of you to notice" or "Oh, that's nice of you to say that.")

Be honest. People like you more if they feel they're able to trust you and you are able to trust yourself. If you make a mistake, make a full apology, without excuses.

Appreciate yourself for who you are. Acting in a confident manner will make you appear to be more confident, but it's also important to find value in yourself as an individual. This will give you real confidence. You are someone special, you have a beautiful smile, and you're good at lots of things! Make a list of these things for yourself, and remind yourself often of your great qualities.

Introducing attitude and your mind

Attitude is about dealing with the reality of existence. From the commonsense point of view, your mind refers to your inner dialog of self-talk. Attitude is dealing with other people. Your mind can heal by mobilizing your body's innate healing powers. Attitude is about dealing with your emotional states from love and compassion to fear and anger. Attitude is having the fortitude to do what you want to do when you want to do it.

From the common sense point of view, your mind refers to your inner dialog of self-talk. This inner dialog of self-talk takes place parallel to whatever behavior you maybe engaging in. The Aristotelian subdivisions of the mind (perception, attention, imagination, emotion, motivation, memory and volition) or the mentalistic concepts of everyday speech can aid readers in dealing with their inner dialog of self-talk.

Your conscious mind refers to a subjective awareness of what is going on. You should view it as a subjective view of reality that your unconscious mind makes possible. Your conscious mind is a state of self-awareness, which is the net result of many parallel physiological processes. "The mind--a manifest functioning of the brain--and the other body systems interact in ways critical for health, illness, and well-being."

Your unconscious mind refers to the automatic processes controlled by your brain and nervous system that collectively take place without your awareness or conscious control. Any behavior that has become routine and is done without conscious thought is controlled by your unconscious mind, by definition. Emotions and feelings are an integral part of your experience of self-awareness. Yet emotions are a part of your unconscious mind because they operate automatically.

These mentalistic terms are a useful part of everyday speech. Any further hair splitting over terms and pursuit of unanswerable questions is best left to the philosophers. In no way should the reader assume that this mentalistic terminology has any necessary relevance to neuroscience. The main challenge confronting this website is to explain the mind as part of the mind - body connection.

How to change people's mindset through attitude renewal

When you say, "I like my job", "I am proud to be a part of my company", "I am very confident of completing the assignment", you are expressing your attitude. An attitude is a readiness to respond in a certain way to a person, object, idea or situation. Attitudes may remain relatively stable over time, others are subject to change with the accumulation of new information and experience. Attitude influences behaviour. Behaviour can also influence attitudes. For example, if Perera behaves in a certain way to please his boss, the response might be positive and Perera might find his attitude of disliking changing to liking. In this case, his own behaviour would have contributed to his change in attitude. Employee attitudes toward their job and company are important because they can influence productivity and satisfaction. An employee's general attitude towards his or her job is called job satisfaction.

Research has shown a negative relationship between job satisfaction and absenteeism and turnover. A similar and ever stronger relationship is found between absenteeism and turnover and the organization's commitment, which is an indication of how strongly an individual identifies with her or his organization.

Employee attitudes are important and many companies measure them by means of attitude surveys.These surveys call upon employees to rate their attitudes towards their work, pay and benefits, supervisor, upper management, peer groups, opportunities for advancement and other areas. Effective managers augment these formal surveys with informal observation and indirect indicators such as absenteeism and turnover. The value of such surveys will depend largely on how skillfully and effectively managers use these results to improve identified problem areas.

How to set yourself up to succeed

Have you ever wondered where you got to where you are today? Have you ever wondered where you will be in five or ten years? Do you know what you want to achieve by the end of the day? If you want to succeed and achieve then you need to set goals because otherwise you will lack focus and direction. Even if you get where you want to be you may not realize it. Here is how to set goals and set your self up for success in five easy steps.

The first step is to think about what motivates you. What is it in life that you truly love and would do or want even if no one else was behind you? If you do things just because someone else wants you to then you will lose motivation very quickly. Think about what the high priorities are in your life. Think about what is on you must do or really want to do soon list.

Next set smart goals. If you need help please look at my other article on smart goals, written just before this one. These goals are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time bound. You need to ensure that your goal is clear and well defined with no generalizations.

Now let's set the goals down on paper. This makes then real and tangible and gives you no excuse to forget. You can share them with friends and family to garner support.

Once the goals are on paper it is time to set an action plan. This means you need to step back and think not just of the desired outcome but of the steps that are required to reach that outcome. Write down each of these steps so that you can cross them off when you achieve them and track your progress towards your goals.

Last but not least do not give up. There may be many times when you get frustrated but you need to plow through, read your goals, and keep with it.

How positive thinking and affirmations…

Are you ready to begin achieving your goals and living the life you want?...

I'm about to show you how simple positive thinking and affirmations when combined with other powerful techniques will improve your life tremendously.....By working with positive thinking, affirmations and other self improvement techniques you will be able to change your reality by attracting the positive situations, circumstances and events that will help you achieve all your goals. This is done by properly communicating with the power of your mind and subconscious mind. In the article below I will outline how you can develop positive thinking patterns to create the changes you want.

Positive thinking is a practice. By working with affirmations, and positive affirmations you develop a pattern for positive thinking -- but this is only something you learn over time. Positive thinking is not something that you were born with. Reciting and saying positive affirmations and long affirmations for health or success affirmations is not something that most people are use to doing. Instead, most people do not have a positive thinking pattern because they usually say negative statements or negative affirmations. I will introduce you to teaches you how to train your mind and subconscious mind to become more positive so that you practice positive thinking and learn to work with positive affirmations and other self improvement techniques throughout your life -- so that you constantly create the life you want. A little background about positive thinking and working with positive affirmations.

I'm sure many of you have heard of positive thinking, affirmations, positive affirmations, etc and probably have read books about the subject. Many people believe that positive thinking is something you do on occasion and that by saying an affirmation or two every once in a while you can create positive changes. I often hear people say: "I'm a positive thinker, things will improve I know that." This is good - but it's not enough to create positive results in your life. In fact you could equate this to wishful thinking.

Why?...Because positive thinking is not an attitude that you turn to when things go wrong. Saying an affirmation when you're in trouble won't help create immediate changes. Positive thinking is not something you do on occasion or keep in the back of your head.

Positive thinking is a practice! That's right a practice -- one that you combine with positive affirmations!, Positive thinking and saying affirmations is something you have to do everyday as often as possible when ever you can. By practicing positive thinking and by reciting affirmations everyday you create a state of mind where you are constantly positive - it becomes a state of being positive. The affirmations should come from you automatically - when this happens you're on the road to creating tremendous and long-term changes. In the end you create a tremendous amount of positive energy - that only creates positive situations for you everyday.
So how do we do this? How do we make positive thinking and affirmations a part of our daily lives so that we stop defeating ourselves and make our lives better?...

Actually it's quite easy - the trick is that it requires discipline and practice.
First begin by observing yourself. Pay attention to your thoughts. See how many thoughts are positive and how many are negative. Keep a notepad handy and keep track of the number of positive thoughts that you have and the number of negative thoughts you have. At the end of your day - take a look at that number - if you have more negative thoughts than positive thoughts - there's some work to do.

The next day - observe your thoughts again. This time pay attention to the types of negative thoughts that you are having. See how they impact your life. Are these negative thoughts a part of reality - is that the way life is. For example: if you say you hate your job - do you really hate it? If you say your boss is a pain - is he/she really a pain? If these negative thoughts are a part of your life - then you have created your own negative reality.

That's right you created it. Every negative belief you have is manifested in your life. These beliefs are based on the thoughts you have. Thoughts repeated over and over again become a belief and a belief becomes reality. Negative thoughts repeated over and over again will create a negative reality. Positive thoughts repeated over and over again - create a positive reality.

First you have to understand your negative thoughts and beliefs then only can you begin changing them. Once you begin changing them you begin creating a positive attitude - and ultimately you begin practicing positive thinking everyday. In order to get the most out of positive thinking you have to make it a way of life.

So begin by getting rid of those negative thoughts and negative beliefs, which serve you no purpose, except to make you miserable. Then you'll be able to begin having a positive attitude and start enjoying life again.

The next step is to start using all your inner powers to so you're your mind gets used to positive thinking and so that you are always carrying a positive attitude. Affirmations are a good start - but when you work with a number of different techniques at the same time you will create changes sooner. By working with affirmations and other techniques you will begin creating the life you want much sooner than if you simply worked with affirmations alone. These other techniques are your inner powers and learning to use them correctly starts with training and disciplining your mind and subconscious mind - which is the most powerful force you have. It is a force - that when used as it should - can create wonderful things in your life. I always say - imagine what you could achieve if you used all of the techniques, if you used all of your inner powers.

Why women smile

Women, as a rule, smile more than men, but the difference between the sexes disappears depending on the circumstances. For women, smiling is the default option.

For men, the default is not smiling.

"If you don't know what to do and you're a female you smile because you know you're not making a mistake. If you're a man, you don't smile,"According to some researchers, smiling is less a sign of underlying emotion than a social display meant for others.

How to know if ...

...a guy likes you

There's no way to know for sure if a guy likes you, unless you ask him (and even then he could get shy and say no!); here are some tips to help you determine if he likes you.

Examine his body language...If he likes you, you may see that he rarely turns his back to you, often leans towards you, and also looks at you a lot. If he slouches his shoulders when near you, he's romantic and cares about what you have to say. If he points his shoulders and pelvis towards you while sitting, he is definitely feeling something for you.

Notice his eye contact... If he likes you, he may either look away quickly if he is shy, or he'll try to catch your eye and hold it or make faces. This can be uncomfortable if you don't like him. If you feel like you have held eye contact just a fraction of a second longer than you would with anyone else, or if he looks away quickly, then there is something there. When he's around you and he says/does something funny and everyone around laughs, his eyes will flicker towards you for a second to see if you laughed, too. His pupils may dilate...if he likes you, but this is quite hard to pick up on, and you might come across as acting strangely by looking that closely into his eyes. If you're around him for a long time, it could be easier to pick up on gradually.

Listen to what he's saying... If he likes you, and he's nervous, he'll probably start talking about himself. Many times, guys feel the need to prove themselves- especially if you talk about another guy in his company.

Be aware of touching...He might put his hand on your arm when he laughs, and won't move his leg if it happens to touch yours, or he may hug you for small things - all are good signs of a guy liking you, unless he's a bit of a "playboy" who flirts with a lot of girls. See if he uses any of the tricks in how to touch a girl, and see if he uses them more with you than with anyone else.

Watch his actions around other girls and see if he treats you differently... Some guys flirt with other girls to get your attention. It gives them a chance to see your reaction, and helps them know if you really do like them or not. You can tell that they are trying to make you jealous if they find little times when they're flirting with the other girl to look at you. His eyes will flick over and look at you. Another sign is that when you leave, he stops flirting with the other girl. That will be a harder one to pick up on, but you can have a friend look for you or something like that. You have to be sneaky sometimes to find out if a guy likes you.

Watch for him showing interest in things you like and do...

Check for signs of nervousness...nervous laughter, sweaty palms, deep breaths, fidgeting, looking away quickly when you notice if he is watching you are all good signs of an attraction towards you and that he is nervous about making an impression on someone he fancies.

Pay attention to his friends...If they know he's interested in you, they might tease him subtly when you're around, hint to you that he likes you, or even try to find out if you like him.

Look to see if he imitates you...If he mimics you, he probably likes you.

Teasing If a guy teases you a lot, it might mean he likes you, but if he doesn't tease any other girl, he probably does like you. Compliments...If you do your hair or makeup differently one day, and the guy notices, that's a very good sign that he likes you.

...a girls likes you

Not sure what those glances, smiles and looks mean? Follow these steps to find out if she really likes you. Strike up a small conversation. This will help you learn little things that will come in handy in the future.

Listen to the tone of her voice

Watch for signs of flirting...If she's flirting, she may be difficult to read, either way, don't "flirt around".

Notice if she touches you more often than what friends do (she's constantly trying to touch your hand or something). If she finds excuses to do so, then you're probably on the right track. But conversely, don't assume that just because she isn't touching you that she doesn't like you. She may be too nervous of you to touch you yet. Break the touch barrier yourself.

Observe how she looks at you...If she likes you, she will either hold it for a long time or pull away immediately. Either of these could mean that she likes you. If she pulls away quickly, it means she is nervous but she still likes you - which means that you should probably make the first move. Look at her friends. If you see most of her friends glancing back at you and smiling or giggling, this means that she is telling her friends about you.

Look out for the damsel in distress...if you're outside and the girl you like is nearby and starts loudly saying "I'm cold!", that's a subtle hint that she wants you to give her your sweater. This is a very sweet gesture, especially if you want to show the girl that you like her. If there are other guys and she likes one of those guys, however, she might act disappointed when you offer yours to her first, in which case at least you'll know how she feels and can move on. Sometimes a girl will pretend to be really bad at something, and say that they can't do it. That is your cue to offer some assistance, and she will most likely be doing this on purpose just to see your reaction. Smile at her.

Do a natural smile - don't freak her out...if she smiles politely, or frowns and looks away, say goodbye to her. She is obviously freaked out by you. If she returns a soft or big smile and continues to look at you, then she is interested. If she smiles then darts over to the crowd of her friends and hides in the group then she may be nervous and curious if you know that she likes you.

How to make your smile more attractive

Ever look at the opposite (or even the same) sex, they give you a really warm and nice-looking smile and you get a really good feeling about that person - whether it’s that you’re on the same wavelength, you’re attracted to them or you just want to go over and make conversation?A nice looking smile is an important aspect of non-verbal communication. A smile is the center of giving thanks, showing appreciation, accepting a deal, falling in love, making small talk and exhibiting inner happiness.
As science has revealed, there are natural ways to increase the quality of your smile.

Here are five ways you can have a warm, nicer looking and much more attractive smile:

Brush your teeth properly. Many people restrict their smile because they’re ashamed at the quality of their teeth. Make sure you give your teeth the time necessary to keep bacteria and plaque away. One lady I recently made gave me one of the most amazing smiles I’ve ever seen. I asked her how she smiled so nicely. She told me that as she takes care and time in brushing her teeth, she has nothing to worry about how she looks. (By the way, asking how a lady smiles so well - good or bad pickup line?)

Avoid snacking. Snacks that are high in sugar and carbs are worse as they can attack your teeth using the acid for as long as 20 minuts. Bacteria feed on the sugar and may start to grow on your teeth and gums. These include simple sugars in fruits, breads and vegetables. So ensure you time your eating with cleaning your teeth.

Drink plenty water. The most prominent feature when it comes to your overall health is always about water. Water will ensure your body has plenty fluid and doesn’t suffer from internal dehydration allowing your skin and lips to look smooth and sensational. Also, by drinking lots of water, you’ll prevent getting bad breath.

Straight teeth. We’re talking about a good smile here so I’ve got to write about teeth. Having straight teeth is an important facet of beautiful smiling. If you haven’t got straight teeth, do your best to get some by seeing a dentist/orthodontist and the effort you put in now will be great for future years. A more faster approach but more costly is cosmetic dentistry.

Live a healthy lifestyle. The most beautiful smile shines from within. Working out, eating right and practicing good overall hygiene will not only promote healthy teeth and gums, it will make you feel good about yourself. Your self-confidence and positive energy will radiate out of your expression’s most important asset - your beautiful smile.

How to give better instructions

If you're the boss, you have to give directions. It's part of the job. Do the job well and you only have to do it once. Do the job poorly and you have to do it again. You might even have to fix things that have been done wrong. Here are three rules and twelve tips for giving good instructions. First, here's a quick list of the three rules.
Rule 1:
Give instructions in the ways that work best for your subordinate

Rule 2:
Give your directions in more than one way.

Rule 3:
Check for understanding Now let's review the rules in detail.
Rule 1:
Give instructions in the ways that work best for your subordinate. Different people process information in different ways. To be most effective, you need to master different ways of presenting instructions so you can choose and use the best way for each subordinate. Psychologists tell us that there are three basic information processing modes. Visual processors think in pictures, while auditory ones think in sound and dialogue. Kinesthetic processors need motion and gesture to understand. Frame your instructions in language that matches your subordinate's preferred mode.

Use the language that your subordinate likes. Note the phrases they use to indicate things they approve of such as "That sounds good" or "It feels right" or "It makes sense." If you use familiar terms when giving instructions, your subordinates are more likely to get the message. Some people prefer you to start with concrete examples and then move to a general principle. Others prefer you to start with the general principle and then provide examples. If you are familiar with the people who work for you, you should learn about what's important to them and how they communicate. Use sports examples for sports lovers and cooking or gardening examples for people who enjoy those pastimes.
Rule 2:
Give your directions in more than one way. Here are a few ways that work. Use diagrams and pictures. These can be a great supplement to words alone. Bulleted lists let people review a number of things quickly. If there's a priority or sequence to your instructions, use a numbered list. Use "if-then" charts to help people understand options.
List possible situations your subordinate might confront in the "If" column. Then, right next to it in the "Then" column list the response you expect. If it's appropriate, act out your instructions or demonstrate. You may want your subordinate to shadow someone who is already good at the task. Stories are the ways that human beings have made sense of complex issues since the dawn of language. Use stories to help you make your points. Write important instructions down so your subordinate can carry them away and refer to them as needed. Lists and if-then charts are excellent for this.

Rule 3:
Check for understanding. Stop from time to time and check to determine if your subordinate understands your message. Stop if your subordinate gives signs of not understanding. Stop after each key point to check and see if he or she understands. Have your subordinate demonstrate understanding in more than one way. Words alone are excellent. But demonstrations or "what-if" scenarios are excellent, too. Note key trouble points that others have had with similar instructions. Check your subordinate's understanding of each. This may seem like an elaborate way to complete the simple task of giving instructions, but the more you master the techniques and practice them, the more likely you are to succeed.

Good listener

Listening to people is a fine art that needs to practiced. If you are like most people, then chances are you often interrupt others while they are still talking.

......In your defense, you could say that a long winded, one sided conversation is the quickest turn off ever, and while this might be true, it just show basics respect for the other person when we are prepared to listen to them without consistently interrupting their speech.

Eidul Adha...TaqabbalAllahu minna wa minkum

Eid al-Adha (عيد الأضحى‎ ‘Īdu l-’Aḍḥā) "Festival of Sacrifice" or "Greater Eid" is a holiday celebrated by muslim worldwide to commemorate the willingness of Ibrahim to sacrifice his son as an act of obedience to God.

Eid al-Adha is the latter of two Eid festivals celebrated by Muslims, whose basis comes from the Quran….Like Eid al Fitr, Eid al-Adha begins with a short prayer followed by a sermon (khutba).
Eid al-Adha annually falls on the 10th day of the month of ذو الحجة of the lunar Islamic calendar. The festivities last for three days or more depending on the country. Eid al-Adha occurs the day after the pilgrims conducting Hajj, the annual pilgrimage to Mecca in Saudi Arabia by Muslims worldwide, descend from Mount Arafat. It happens to be approximately 70 days after the end of the month of Ramadan...

The slaughtering day…Idul qurban and practise of detachment. Here we go again. As we are entering Hari Raya Haji, it is time for the moslems to spare some money to buy cattle(s) to be sacrificed. You will soon see on the side of the roads some cows and goats ready to be slaughtered in the name of God. Soon, you will see depressing and sadistic doings towards the sheeps, goats and cows.

The story behind beheading goats for sacrifice starts from when Ibrahim was asked (or tested) by God to show how obedient he was. God asked Ibrahim to sacrifice his son, Ismail, who was born after Ibrahim was very old. Both of them were in confusion, but then both said that if it is in ordered by God, then they should do it. So, Ibrahim prepared to behead Ismail, and when the knife (or guillotine, or whatever they were using at that era) almost reached Ismail’s neck, he was replaced by a goat (or cow). The moral of the story is, if you want to be blessed by God, you have to sacrifice.

How to make parents very happy

Tell your parents, “Thank you.” Parents can feel unappreciated and taken advantage of when you fail to show gratitude for the things they do for you. Acknowledge their effort, make them a sweet card or simply give them a bear hug from time to time.

Communicate with them openly, honestly and often. Discuss your feelings, friends, boy or girlfriend, peer pressure, schoolwork or your plans for Saturday night. Keep them apprised of the events in your life so they won’t have to worry about what you’re thinking or doing.

Follow the rules of the house. Get in before curfew, finish your work before going out and always be completely honest. You’ll have far less disagreements if they know you’re responsible and trustworthy.

Listen respectfully when your parents talk to you. Take their advice to heart, complete requests quickly and even ask how their day went. Keep your eyes off the television and remove the stereo headphones from your ears to give them your undivided attention.

Try your hardest at everything you do, whether it’s school, work, sports or even household chores. Even if you don’t come home with perfect grades or don’t make the varsity squad, for example, they won’t be disappointed if they’re sure you put in your best effort.

Do your chores without a reminder. Nagging you to take out the trash or straighten your room can put your mom on edge. Consistently complete your tasks and offer to help with theirs when you can.

Hang out with your parents whenever possible. Although it’s great for them to have time alone together, they’ll be happy to know you enjoy seeing movies, having leisurely dinners or walking around the mall with them.

How to tackle a blind date

Some tips on how handled it, and here we go…….

First of all, as with everything, you have to have the right mindset. You write in your e-mail that you usually have some kind of connection to a girl before you go on a date with her. You already have two connections; your mutual friend, and the fact that you have been “set up” by her. I assume that your friend is a girl. She has already “validated” both of you! Think about it, that’s a better start than most guys gets on most dates. And you also have one common interest; that is to meet each other! And how great isn’t that? You’re both “interested”. Not knowing “what she’ll be like” is actually a pretty good thing; you could say that you start at ground zero. Since there are no expectations, you should actually be more comfortable than at a “regular date”, where you will both be “coloured” a little by your last interaction, whether it was by phone or in person.....

I think I have said this before, but I’ll say it again. Don’t treat a date like a job interview!.That means you, shouldn’t be wearing clothes that are not “you”. You should be 100% comfortable in your clothes. A shirt only looks as good as you wear it, so if you’re not used to wear shirts, a t-shirt is fine. Shouldn’t ask her all kind of boring questions. Be overly nervous. I know this is hard. But try to relax. Speak slowly, and pause between words to create suspense for her, and to give yourself time to think about what to say. Be interesting…..You shouldn’t be afraid to say something to upset her a little bit, or make her laugh. You have nothing to lose, and being boring is the absolute worst thing you can do. Have an exit plan. It’s so much better to meet over coffee for a first date, than to do the whole “dinner and a movie” approach. It’s expensive, and if you just don’t feel it for each other, it can also be extremely awkward.

When you meet, be sure to make her comfortable right at the beginning by introducing yourself with an open hand, and by saying your name out clear. This is really “standard procedure”, but shaking hands really helps with getting her comfortable around you.....

Right from the point where you walk out the door, be confident that she is a good girl that is interested in you. And to get the right look in your eyes, have the mentality that she actually thinks you’re pretty,....When you meet her, you meet her at a local café etc. You wear comfortable clothes, and you greet her by shaking hands.You don’t talk about or ask her boring stuff.

This could also be supplied by you looking suspicious in a fun way, like that “creep” was you. Quickly looking from left to right, and back again a few times is almost guaranteed to make her laugh.Again, making a little fun of yourself is a great way to ease the natural tension between you...have fun!, If you manage to have fun, I think everything will be fine......

How to feel good all the time

Stress: The first emotion that kills good moods is stress, if you are living a stressful life style or even if your external environment is promoting stress then you will rarely be able to feel good.

Over eating:Eating is another factor that can change your mood right away, try to eat something while you are full or fill your stomach with soda and you will experience a sudden drop in your mood in few seconds. Only eat when you are Hungary and stop eating before you are full and then food will never make you feel bad.

Guilt: Guilt is a another source of emotional pain that prevents the person from feeling good. I am not talking about the kind of guilt you get when you do something really awful but the guilt I am talking about is the one that results from tiny events such as not exercising on the day you were supposed to exercise or delaying a task that you were supposed to do. These tiny events can result in feelings of guilt that prevents you from feeling good.

There are countless number of items that I can mention that prevents a person from feeling happy but in the end the concept will still be the same. Learning how to become aware of the small events that trigger unwanted emotions will help you prevent them in early stages and will lead you to feeling good all the time.

Successful group discussion

When it comes to a group discussion, there is no such thing a "too much planning." The planning that you put into a group discussion will often be a reflection of the results. Some of the things that you will want to pay attention to are recruitment issues and the topic that will be discussed.It is important for you to make sure the group is stimulated. One of the things you will want to focus on is choosing the right people to participate in the discussion. In most cases, this will be the task of the moderator.
The quality of the group discussion will be dependent on the people who are chosen to participate. Choose the wrong people, and you will get the wrong results. If you have the time and resources, it may be necessary to someone the task of choosing the right members for the discussion. In a nutshell, the people you choose should be highly qualified to deal with the topic that is being raised. It is also important to make sure you never judge people based on their appearance. This is a mistake that can be made by the leader as well as the other members. Often, the appearance of a person will not have an effect on their ability to contribute to the discussion. In addition to appearance, an emphasis should also not be placed on the educational background of the participants. Just because a member does not have advanced degrees is not a sign that they are not valuable. Obviously, the ideal group discussion will be composed of people who are educated and attractive. However, fantasy and reality are two different things, and these attributes are not crucially relevant in a group discussion.

Another thing that you will want to remember is that gaining a certain objective during a group discussion does not mean it was successful. However it is also important to make sure the members of group stay focused on the topic that is being discussed. It is easy to get off topic, and this can waste time and hurt the ability of the group to reach a desired goal. If you are planning the event, it is important to make sure your presentation is ready. Everything should be organized and prepared. A lack of organization will convey a bad message to the other members, and this is something you will want to avoid. If the members of the group need to be organized for the discussion, it is important for you to let them know this beforehand. If you don't communicate with them effectively, it can cause a number of problems.

Why people fall in love?

It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails. You can analyze his mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore that take the life out of the experience. Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions and commonalities that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.

When this happen to young people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on. They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other person no longer love them, or try to get their love to change, thinking that if some small things were different, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life, their love will grow. They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.

You need to know this about love, and accept it. You need to treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart. If you find yourself someone in love with you but you don't love him back, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage; do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with yourself. All our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it nor to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time. Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can. There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this and keep it to your heart. Love has its time, its own season, its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. BE GLAD THAT IT CAME TO LIVE FOR A MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE. If you keep you heart open, it will come again...