Dating Essentials: Making Eye Contact

Look 'em in the eye when you're on the lookout for love

Here is a fact, people don't make eye contact. They should and they do look at each other, but they look away when the other person looks back. Look at the commuters on a subway platform or in a subway carriage. They look at anything except each other. They use devices such as ads and books and papers so that they don't look at each other. Why? Because when we look at each other and make eye contact something very personal happens. It is as if we can see inside each other and see what they are thinking. It is the opening to a conversation. Looking at strangers is a personal introduction.

My team Futsal

Mentally and physically strong.....


You need to be real fast....your movement, your eyes, your decisions, think fast....

Keep on marking player when defending all the time even if you are a striker...

If everyone of your team do exactly like this, now only see how efficient is your opponent's players techniques to get past you...

When attacking, always give your teammates options when he has the ball...Positioning is important...

Passing must be accurate all the times. There should be no mistakes at all since you're playing with 5 or 7 players in a small pitch....

The last part is you techniques....

Dealing with stress at work

Get organised...

If you've got a million and one things to do, but no system written down on paper or your computer, you're in trouble. The mind is not the most efficient engine on earth when it comes to recalling a myriad of competing tasks, so note them down ang assign each a priority. Get sorted!

Drink up...

Keeping the brain hydrated makes your grey matter synapses to transmit information easier. If you feel yourself getting sluggish upstairs, remember to drink araound 1.5 litres of water a day.

Reach for the fish...

Similarly, Fish oil helps lubricates the brain and encourage mental clarity. Consuming 1000mg of fish oil a day should assist you in staying on the ball.

B vitamins...

B vitamins assist the body handle stress by providing support to the adrenal glands. These are best taken in the morning so as not to keep you buzzing at night.

Limit interruptions...

Taking personal calls at work?. This is fine occasionally, but don't get into big catch ups on work time. It will take you that much longer to get back in the zone. Politely explain to friends or family that you're working and will return their call that evening, or even on the weekend.

Talk it over...

If you have a manager and you're not handling your work load, bring it up!. The solution could be as simple as delegating or getting some de stressing time in lieu. Sometimes we can be prone to mulling on things for so long, problems can seem much larger than they are. If chatting to your supervisor fails, you may consider approaching a human resources staff member.

Walk it off...

Exercise! The stress busting benefits of getting active are well known. Find something you enjoy and schedule it into your calendar. That way it becomes a date - one you're less likely to break.

How to develop good communication skills

Know what communication really is. Communication is the process of transferring signals/messages between a sender and a receiver through various methods (written words, nonverbal cues, spoken words). It is also the mechanism we use to establish and modify relationships....

....Manifest constructive attitudes and beliefs. The attitudes you bring to communication will have a huge impact on the way you compose yourself and interact with others. Choose to be honest, patient, optimistic, sincere, respectful, and accepting of others. Be sensitive to other people's feeling, and believe in others' competence.....

....Make eye contact. Whether you are speaking or listening, looking into the eyes of the person with whom you are conversing can make the interaction more successful. Eye contact conveys interest, and encourages your partner to be interested in you in return. In less intimate settings, when giving a speech or when in front of several people, holding the eyes of different members of your audience can personalize what you are saying and maintain attention.....

....Be aware of what your body is saying. Body language can say so much more than a mouthful of words. An open stance with arms relaxed at your sides tells anyone around you that you are approachable and open to hearing what they have to say. Arms crossed and shoulders hunched, on the other hand, suggest disinterest in conversation or unwillingness to communicate. Often, communication can be stopped before it starts by body language that tells people you don't want to talk. Appropriate posture and an approachable stance can make even difficult conversations flow more smoothly.....

Have courage to say what you think! Be confident in knowing that you can make worthwhile contributions to conversation. Take time each day to be aware of your opinions and feelings so you can adequately convey them to others. Individuals who are hesitant to speak because they do not feel their input would be worthwhile need not fear; what is important or worthwhile to one person may not be to another and may be more so to someone else. In a world so very big, someone is bound to agree with you, or to open your eyes to an even deeper perspective. The courage to say what you think can afford you the opportunity to learn more than you knew before.....

....Speak clearly enough to be heard. When you are saying what you think, have the confidence to say it so as to be heard. An appropriate tone and volume can inform listeners that you mean what you say, you have thought about what you are saying, and what you are saying is worth hearing. Using proper inflection helps ensure that your listeners hear exactly what you are saying, and reduces possibilities for misunderstanding.....

....Practice. Developing advanced communication skills begins with simple interactions. Communication skills can be practiced every day in settings that range from the more social to the more professional. New skills take time to refine, but each time you use your communication skills you open yourself to opportunities and future partnerships.....

....Develop effective listening skills. Not only should one be able to speak effectively, one must listen to the other person's words and engage in communication on what the other person is speaking about. Avoid the impulse to listen only for the end of their sentence so that you can blurt out the ideas or memories that come to your mind while the other person is speaking.....

How to be nice to people

Haven't you always wanted to be nice to people? To have them be nice back? Being nice is not difficult, but it needs some polishing for others to realize your effort. A smile on your face makes others smile also. A kind word to someone, or holding a door open to the person who is about to enter, is really easy to do, and in the long run will make you happy also.

Smile to everybody you meet will urge the other person to smile back. A smile a day is the essential movement to niceness, and even if the girl is your worst enemy ever, muster a little smile and mutter a 'hi'. But don't do this in the morning if someone looks like they're half asleep, just nod to them unless they offer a response of their own.

Greet everybody you know, not only with that smile, but also a 'hello'. If you have the time, try to introduce yourself to everybody you meet and don't know yet. Chances are that one of the hundreds you get to know will become your best friend into your old age!

Get a conversation started. Talk about small stuff that you know the person would be interested in. If you don't know the other person well enough to know about their preferences, try to talk about things happening around you. (The meeting you've both been to an hour ago, the new guy in Math class, the fantastic new shoes your colleague has been wearing, etc.)

Try to compliment your new pal. But be careful, though, not to flatter them too much. Too much flattery can give the impression that you are sucking up to them, and especially if this new friend is a superior, they will think of you as a lapdog or butt-kisser.

Make arrangements to meet or talk almost every week. Remember to exchange contact methods. Get her email, grab his address, ask for their phone number. Don't leave without getting their personal info if you really like him/her! (However, if they balk at supplying contact information, do not harass them trying to get it. Be nice, smile, and offer to run into them again some day.)

Get them something nice once in a while. And for holidays or birthdays, buy something really special that you know s/he will really appreciate. It doesn't need to be something super expensive. A box of chocolates, a new notebook, if you really mean it, your friend will get the message and be nicer to you too.

Be polite to others. Help when needed, even to people you have never met before. That person might be lonely, and you may be the only one they have talked to that day. Imagine how happy they will be...and you will be happy also, knowing you have been nice to someone.

Don't curse. It projects an ugly image of you.

Be nice to "everyone", even those who have been nasty to you. Who knows? They might start being nice to you, too! And if they don't, at least you are being decent.

Be eager to offer help. Especially to those who have a their arms full, children they are attending to, difficulty walking, or carrying heavy articles, etc. One day, you might be like them, and need help also.

Offer to help clean up after a party or a get-together. The host might be tired, and welcome your help.

Always remember to treat people the way you would like to be treated. If you are nice to people they will treat you in the right manner, and if you horrible to people they won't ever treat you nicely.

If people are nasty to you, always treat them nicely even though you don't want to. It will come in use one day.

If you have people who are very ill-mannered to you, never act the same way back, because they won't be a difference between you two, you will be as bad as each other.

How to interpret romantic body language

A smile – If he smiles at you, take it as a good sign. It’s an even better sign if she gives you a hundred-watt smile—full set of teeth, and maybe gums, showing. This is more than a casual smile. It signals interest in you.
The eyes have it – But a smile is not enough to determine romantic interest. We have all, especially women, been taught to smile. It is a polite, hospitable social custom that, by itself, may only signal politeness. If the smile, however, is combined with certain “eye behaviors,” the chances are much greater that you have sparked a romantic interest in him. These eye behaviors are easy to identify. If she casts a lingering look at you—a glance that lasts more than a few seconds—she is sending you a romantic invitation. He is saying the same thing if he looks at you, looks away, then looks back at you. If she boldly stares at you, however, she may be telling you to “back off.” Proceed with caution. A touch speaks volumes – If he gives you these smile and eye signals, and you return them, you should be talking soon. Once you are physically close to each other, the next sign of romantic interest is a touch. This should never be a touch on a sexual body part; that’s much too bold. Instead, watch for her to lightly brush your arm as she reaches for her drink. If you’re sitting beside each other, and he turns toward you, watch for his knees to lightly graze yours. Maybe she’ll ask you what time it is while touching your wristwatch. Maybe he’ll pull a stray hair off of your sweater. Subtle touches like these are sure signs that the man or women is romantically interested in you.

Mirroring – By now, you should have no doubt that he is romantically interested in you. But just to make sure, watch for her to mimic your body movements and gestures. If you’re both sitting, lean forward in your chair toward him. He will lean forward toward you if he is romantically interested. Touch your face as you’re talking to her. If she is romantically interested in you, she should touch her face a few seconds later. Mirroring your movements and gestures, especially when combined with the other steps, are sure signs of romantic interest.

How to issue good directives as a Supervisor

A supervisor within an organization must often issue directives to persons he or she is supervising (subordinates). There are both good ways and bad ways to issue directives. In order for the tasks assigned to be achieved effectively and efficiently by those working beneath the supervisor, it is important for the supervisor to issue good, clear, understandable, and concise directives. The steps in this article will help you as a supervisor understand what constitutes good directives so that you may incorporate these strategies when you issue directives to employees you are supervising.

Be reasonable - As the supervisor, you should not issue a directive if the employee receiving the directive does not have the experience, ability, and/or willingness to comply.

Be understandable - As the supervisor, you should make certain that employees understand your directives by speaking words that are familiar to the employees and by using feedback to ensure that your employees understand your directives.

Be specific - As the supervisor, you should state clearly what it is that you expect from your employees in terms of quality and quantity of work performance.

Set time limits - As the supervisor, you should specify time limits within which work tasks should be accomplished.

Be congruent - As the supervisor, your supervisory directives must be compatible with the mission, vision, core values, philosophy, regulations, policies, and ethical standards of your organization.

Use appropriate tone, wording and phrasing - As the supervisor, you should state a directive as a request using a considerate and polite tone.

How to be punctual

If you're battling chronic lateness, there is hope. According to the experts, you can avoid procrastination and tardiness by changing your habits and tweaking your routines. Here are some things you can do to turn lateness into punctuality.

Acknowledge that you are a person who is having a hard time being punctual. As with any problem, you cannot fix it if you're in denial that it's a problem at all.

Be conscious of the time, keep your watch accurate, keep a clock, phone, computer or anything that displays time in each room of your house.

Don't be an optimist. Things usually take significantly longer than you'd expect, even without major delays. Wake up when you're supposed to wake up, commit yourself to being 15 minutes early for everything, bring something you can read in short segments almost everywhere you go, Re-examine how long your daily tasks really take. Watch yourself for a few days to see where you often waste the most time.Make a note of where you should be in regards to time.

Keep organized. Disorganization is directly related to lateness.

Plan ahead, schedule something unimportant right before something very important, pick out your clothes the night before, If you are going to some unfamiliar place, look over a map, or even drive there once if at all possible. If you are depending on another person for a ride—have a plan B!.

Go to sleep on time. This makes it a lot easier to get up on time and helps you stay on task during the day.

How to make people think you are confident

The most attractive attribute in a person is confidence. Even if you are not confident in yourself you can trick people into thinking that you are.

Ask questions of any kind. Sometimes asking silly questions is the best way to boost confidence, and people greatly admire those who show no fear of being judged. You have nothing to prove to anyone; be silly, be spontaneous, have fun conversations. These are really good ways to prove to others that you are confident.

Hold your head up high. Have tall, straight posture.

Make eye contact. Don't look down or from side to side.

When shaking hands, have a firm grip, but not too firm!

Speak loudly and clearly. Think before you speak so you have a clear idea of what to say. If you tend to jumble words in an attempt to rush through what you're saying, slow down.

Smile. Always show your pearly whites.

Laugh. Make it look like you are always having fun. Laugh at your mistakes; you'll seem more happy.

Keep busy. Don't just stand around. Meet new people. Share a funny joke, join clubs, do social things.

Take compliments gracefully by always smiling and saying a simple "thank you." If someone pays you a compliment, do not respond by putting yourself down. If possible, compliment the other person in your response (for instance, by saying something like "Oh, how sweet of you to notice" or "Oh, that's nice of you to say that.")

Be honest. People like you more if they feel they're able to trust you and you are able to trust yourself. If you make a mistake, make a full apology, without excuses.

Appreciate yourself for who you are. Acting in a confident manner will make you appear to be more confident, but it's also important to find value in yourself as an individual. This will give you real confidence. You are someone special, you have a beautiful smile, and you're good at lots of things! Make a list of these things for yourself, and remind yourself often of your great qualities.