Introducing attitude and your mind

Attitude is about dealing with the reality of existence. From the commonsense point of view, your mind refers to your inner dialog of self-talk. Attitude is dealing with other people. Your mind can heal by mobilizing your body's innate healing powers. Attitude is about dealing with your emotional states from love and compassion to fear and anger. Attitude is having the fortitude to do what you want to do when you want to do it.

From the common sense point of view, your mind refers to your inner dialog of self-talk. This inner dialog of self-talk takes place parallel to whatever behavior you maybe engaging in. The Aristotelian subdivisions of the mind (perception, attention, imagination, emotion, motivation, memory and volition) or the mentalistic concepts of everyday speech can aid readers in dealing with their inner dialog of self-talk.

Your conscious mind refers to a subjective awareness of what is going on. You should view it as a subjective view of reality that your unconscious mind makes possible. Your conscious mind is a state of self-awareness, which is the net result of many parallel physiological processes. "The mind--a manifest functioning of the brain--and the other body systems interact in ways critical for health, illness, and well-being."

Your unconscious mind refers to the automatic processes controlled by your brain and nervous system that collectively take place without your awareness or conscious control. Any behavior that has become routine and is done without conscious thought is controlled by your unconscious mind, by definition. Emotions and feelings are an integral part of your experience of self-awareness. Yet emotions are a part of your unconscious mind because they operate automatically.

These mentalistic terms are a useful part of everyday speech. Any further hair splitting over terms and pursuit of unanswerable questions is best left to the philosophers. In no way should the reader assume that this mentalistic terminology has any necessary relevance to neuroscience. The main challenge confronting this website is to explain the mind as part of the mind - body connection.

How to change people's mindset through attitude renewal

When you say, "I like my job", "I am proud to be a part of my company", "I am very confident of completing the assignment", you are expressing your attitude. An attitude is a readiness to respond in a certain way to a person, object, idea or situation. Attitudes may remain relatively stable over time, others are subject to change with the accumulation of new information and experience. Attitude influences behaviour. Behaviour can also influence attitudes. For example, if Perera behaves in a certain way to please his boss, the response might be positive and Perera might find his attitude of disliking changing to liking. In this case, his own behaviour would have contributed to his change in attitude. Employee attitudes toward their job and company are important because they can influence productivity and satisfaction. An employee's general attitude towards his or her job is called job satisfaction.

Research has shown a negative relationship between job satisfaction and absenteeism and turnover. A similar and ever stronger relationship is found between absenteeism and turnover and the organization's commitment, which is an indication of how strongly an individual identifies with her or his organization.

Employee attitudes are important and many companies measure them by means of attitude surveys.These surveys call upon employees to rate their attitudes towards their work, pay and benefits, supervisor, upper management, peer groups, opportunities for advancement and other areas. Effective managers augment these formal surveys with informal observation and indirect indicators such as absenteeism and turnover. The value of such surveys will depend largely on how skillfully and effectively managers use these results to improve identified problem areas.

How to set yourself up to succeed

Have you ever wondered where you got to where you are today? Have you ever wondered where you will be in five or ten years? Do you know what you want to achieve by the end of the day? If you want to succeed and achieve then you need to set goals because otherwise you will lack focus and direction. Even if you get where you want to be you may not realize it. Here is how to set goals and set your self up for success in five easy steps.

The first step is to think about what motivates you. What is it in life that you truly love and would do or want even if no one else was behind you? If you do things just because someone else wants you to then you will lose motivation very quickly. Think about what the high priorities are in your life. Think about what is on you must do or really want to do soon list.

Next set smart goals. If you need help please look at my other article on smart goals, written just before this one. These goals are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time bound. You need to ensure that your goal is clear and well defined with no generalizations.

Now let's set the goals down on paper. This makes then real and tangible and gives you no excuse to forget. You can share them with friends and family to garner support.

Once the goals are on paper it is time to set an action plan. This means you need to step back and think not just of the desired outcome but of the steps that are required to reach that outcome. Write down each of these steps so that you can cross them off when you achieve them and track your progress towards your goals.

Last but not least do not give up. There may be many times when you get frustrated but you need to plow through, read your goals, and keep with it.

How positive thinking and affirmations…

Are you ready to begin achieving your goals and living the life you want?...

I'm about to show you how simple positive thinking and affirmations when combined with other powerful techniques will improve your life tremendously.....By working with positive thinking, affirmations and other self improvement techniques you will be able to change your reality by attracting the positive situations, circumstances and events that will help you achieve all your goals. This is done by properly communicating with the power of your mind and subconscious mind. In the article below I will outline how you can develop positive thinking patterns to create the changes you want.

Positive thinking is a practice. By working with affirmations, and positive affirmations you develop a pattern for positive thinking -- but this is only something you learn over time. Positive thinking is not something that you were born with. Reciting and saying positive affirmations and long affirmations for health or success affirmations is not something that most people are use to doing. Instead, most people do not have a positive thinking pattern because they usually say negative statements or negative affirmations. I will introduce you to teaches you how to train your mind and subconscious mind to become more positive so that you practice positive thinking and learn to work with positive affirmations and other self improvement techniques throughout your life -- so that you constantly create the life you want. A little background about positive thinking and working with positive affirmations.

I'm sure many of you have heard of positive thinking, affirmations, positive affirmations, etc and probably have read books about the subject. Many people believe that positive thinking is something you do on occasion and that by saying an affirmation or two every once in a while you can create positive changes. I often hear people say: "I'm a positive thinker, things will improve I know that." This is good - but it's not enough to create positive results in your life. In fact you could equate this to wishful thinking.

Why?...Because positive thinking is not an attitude that you turn to when things go wrong. Saying an affirmation when you're in trouble won't help create immediate changes. Positive thinking is not something you do on occasion or keep in the back of your head.

Positive thinking is a practice! That's right a practice -- one that you combine with positive affirmations!, Positive thinking and saying affirmations is something you have to do everyday as often as possible when ever you can. By practicing positive thinking and by reciting affirmations everyday you create a state of mind where you are constantly positive - it becomes a state of being positive. The affirmations should come from you automatically - when this happens you're on the road to creating tremendous and long-term changes. In the end you create a tremendous amount of positive energy - that only creates positive situations for you everyday.
So how do we do this? How do we make positive thinking and affirmations a part of our daily lives so that we stop defeating ourselves and make our lives better?...

Actually it's quite easy - the trick is that it requires discipline and practice.
First begin by observing yourself. Pay attention to your thoughts. See how many thoughts are positive and how many are negative. Keep a notepad handy and keep track of the number of positive thoughts that you have and the number of negative thoughts you have. At the end of your day - take a look at that number - if you have more negative thoughts than positive thoughts - there's some work to do.

The next day - observe your thoughts again. This time pay attention to the types of negative thoughts that you are having. See how they impact your life. Are these negative thoughts a part of reality - is that the way life is. For example: if you say you hate your job - do you really hate it? If you say your boss is a pain - is he/she really a pain? If these negative thoughts are a part of your life - then you have created your own negative reality.

That's right you created it. Every negative belief you have is manifested in your life. These beliefs are based on the thoughts you have. Thoughts repeated over and over again become a belief and a belief becomes reality. Negative thoughts repeated over and over again will create a negative reality. Positive thoughts repeated over and over again - create a positive reality.

First you have to understand your negative thoughts and beliefs then only can you begin changing them. Once you begin changing them you begin creating a positive attitude - and ultimately you begin practicing positive thinking everyday. In order to get the most out of positive thinking you have to make it a way of life.

So begin by getting rid of those negative thoughts and negative beliefs, which serve you no purpose, except to make you miserable. Then you'll be able to begin having a positive attitude and start enjoying life again.

The next step is to start using all your inner powers to so you're your mind gets used to positive thinking and so that you are always carrying a positive attitude. Affirmations are a good start - but when you work with a number of different techniques at the same time you will create changes sooner. By working with affirmations and other techniques you will begin creating the life you want much sooner than if you simply worked with affirmations alone. These other techniques are your inner powers and learning to use them correctly starts with training and disciplining your mind and subconscious mind - which is the most powerful force you have. It is a force - that when used as it should - can create wonderful things in your life. I always say - imagine what you could achieve if you used all of the techniques, if you used all of your inner powers.

Why women smile

Women, as a rule, smile more than men, but the difference between the sexes disappears depending on the circumstances. For women, smiling is the default option.

For men, the default is not smiling.

"If you don't know what to do and you're a female you smile because you know you're not making a mistake. If you're a man, you don't smile,"According to some researchers, smiling is less a sign of underlying emotion than a social display meant for others.

How to know if ...

...a guy likes you

There's no way to know for sure if a guy likes you, unless you ask him (and even then he could get shy and say no!); here are some tips to help you determine if he likes you.

Examine his body language...If he likes you, you may see that he rarely turns his back to you, often leans towards you, and also looks at you a lot. If he slouches his shoulders when near you, he's romantic and cares about what you have to say. If he points his shoulders and pelvis towards you while sitting, he is definitely feeling something for you.

Notice his eye contact... If he likes you, he may either look away quickly if he is shy, or he'll try to catch your eye and hold it or make faces. This can be uncomfortable if you don't like him. If you feel like you have held eye contact just a fraction of a second longer than you would with anyone else, or if he looks away quickly, then there is something there. When he's around you and he says/does something funny and everyone around laughs, his eyes will flicker towards you for a second to see if you laughed, too. His pupils may dilate...if he likes you, but this is quite hard to pick up on, and you might come across as acting strangely by looking that closely into his eyes. If you're around him for a long time, it could be easier to pick up on gradually.

Listen to what he's saying... If he likes you, and he's nervous, he'll probably start talking about himself. Many times, guys feel the need to prove themselves- especially if you talk about another guy in his company.

Be aware of touching...He might put his hand on your arm when he laughs, and won't move his leg if it happens to touch yours, or he may hug you for small things - all are good signs of a guy liking you, unless he's a bit of a "playboy" who flirts with a lot of girls. See if he uses any of the tricks in how to touch a girl, and see if he uses them more with you than with anyone else.

Watch his actions around other girls and see if he treats you differently... Some guys flirt with other girls to get your attention. It gives them a chance to see your reaction, and helps them know if you really do like them or not. You can tell that they are trying to make you jealous if they find little times when they're flirting with the other girl to look at you. His eyes will flick over and look at you. Another sign is that when you leave, he stops flirting with the other girl. That will be a harder one to pick up on, but you can have a friend look for you or something like that. You have to be sneaky sometimes to find out if a guy likes you.

Watch for him showing interest in things you like and do...

Check for signs of nervousness...nervous laughter, sweaty palms, deep breaths, fidgeting, looking away quickly when you notice if he is watching you are all good signs of an attraction towards you and that he is nervous about making an impression on someone he fancies.

Pay attention to his friends...If they know he's interested in you, they might tease him subtly when you're around, hint to you that he likes you, or even try to find out if you like him.

Look to see if he imitates you...If he mimics you, he probably likes you.

Teasing If a guy teases you a lot, it might mean he likes you, but if he doesn't tease any other girl, he probably does like you. Compliments...If you do your hair or makeup differently one day, and the guy notices, that's a very good sign that he likes you.

...a girls likes you

Not sure what those glances, smiles and looks mean? Follow these steps to find out if she really likes you. Strike up a small conversation. This will help you learn little things that will come in handy in the future.

Listen to the tone of her voice

Watch for signs of flirting...If she's flirting, she may be difficult to read, either way, don't "flirt around".

Notice if she touches you more often than what friends do (she's constantly trying to touch your hand or something). If she finds excuses to do so, then you're probably on the right track. But conversely, don't assume that just because she isn't touching you that she doesn't like you. She may be too nervous of you to touch you yet. Break the touch barrier yourself.

Observe how she looks at you...If she likes you, she will either hold it for a long time or pull away immediately. Either of these could mean that she likes you. If she pulls away quickly, it means she is nervous but she still likes you - which means that you should probably make the first move. Look at her friends. If you see most of her friends glancing back at you and smiling or giggling, this means that she is telling her friends about you.

Look out for the damsel in distress...if you're outside and the girl you like is nearby and starts loudly saying "I'm cold!", that's a subtle hint that she wants you to give her your sweater. This is a very sweet gesture, especially if you want to show the girl that you like her. If there are other guys and she likes one of those guys, however, she might act disappointed when you offer yours to her first, in which case at least you'll know how she feels and can move on. Sometimes a girl will pretend to be really bad at something, and say that they can't do it. That is your cue to offer some assistance, and she will most likely be doing this on purpose just to see your reaction. Smile at her.

Do a natural smile - don't freak her out...if she smiles politely, or frowns and looks away, say goodbye to her. She is obviously freaked out by you. If she returns a soft or big smile and continues to look at you, then she is interested. If she smiles then darts over to the crowd of her friends and hides in the group then she may be nervous and curious if you know that she likes you.

How to make your smile more attractive

Ever look at the opposite (or even the same) sex, they give you a really warm and nice-looking smile and you get a really good feeling about that person - whether it’s that you’re on the same wavelength, you’re attracted to them or you just want to go over and make conversation?A nice looking smile is an important aspect of non-verbal communication. A smile is the center of giving thanks, showing appreciation, accepting a deal, falling in love, making small talk and exhibiting inner happiness.
As science has revealed, there are natural ways to increase the quality of your smile.

Here are five ways you can have a warm, nicer looking and much more attractive smile:

Brush your teeth properly. Many people restrict their smile because they’re ashamed at the quality of their teeth. Make sure you give your teeth the time necessary to keep bacteria and plaque away. One lady I recently made gave me one of the most amazing smiles I’ve ever seen. I asked her how she smiled so nicely. She told me that as she takes care and time in brushing her teeth, she has nothing to worry about how she looks. (By the way, asking how a lady smiles so well - good or bad pickup line?)

Avoid snacking. Snacks that are high in sugar and carbs are worse as they can attack your teeth using the acid for as long as 20 minuts. Bacteria feed on the sugar and may start to grow on your teeth and gums. These include simple sugars in fruits, breads and vegetables. So ensure you time your eating with cleaning your teeth.

Drink plenty water. The most prominent feature when it comes to your overall health is always about water. Water will ensure your body has plenty fluid and doesn’t suffer from internal dehydration allowing your skin and lips to look smooth and sensational. Also, by drinking lots of water, you’ll prevent getting bad breath.

Straight teeth. We’re talking about a good smile here so I’ve got to write about teeth. Having straight teeth is an important facet of beautiful smiling. If you haven’t got straight teeth, do your best to get some by seeing a dentist/orthodontist and the effort you put in now will be great for future years. A more faster approach but more costly is cosmetic dentistry.

Live a healthy lifestyle. The most beautiful smile shines from within. Working out, eating right and practicing good overall hygiene will not only promote healthy teeth and gums, it will make you feel good about yourself. Your self-confidence and positive energy will radiate out of your expression’s most important asset - your beautiful smile.

How to give better instructions

If you're the boss, you have to give directions. It's part of the job. Do the job well and you only have to do it once. Do the job poorly and you have to do it again. You might even have to fix things that have been done wrong. Here are three rules and twelve tips for giving good instructions. First, here's a quick list of the three rules.
Rule 1:
Give instructions in the ways that work best for your subordinate

Rule 2:
Give your directions in more than one way.

Rule 3:
Check for understanding Now let's review the rules in detail.
Rule 1:
Give instructions in the ways that work best for your subordinate. Different people process information in different ways. To be most effective, you need to master different ways of presenting instructions so you can choose and use the best way for each subordinate. Psychologists tell us that there are three basic information processing modes. Visual processors think in pictures, while auditory ones think in sound and dialogue. Kinesthetic processors need motion and gesture to understand. Frame your instructions in language that matches your subordinate's preferred mode.

Use the language that your subordinate likes. Note the phrases they use to indicate things they approve of such as "That sounds good" or "It feels right" or "It makes sense." If you use familiar terms when giving instructions, your subordinates are more likely to get the message. Some people prefer you to start with concrete examples and then move to a general principle. Others prefer you to start with the general principle and then provide examples. If you are familiar with the people who work for you, you should learn about what's important to them and how they communicate. Use sports examples for sports lovers and cooking or gardening examples for people who enjoy those pastimes.
Rule 2:
Give your directions in more than one way. Here are a few ways that work. Use diagrams and pictures. These can be a great supplement to words alone. Bulleted lists let people review a number of things quickly. If there's a priority or sequence to your instructions, use a numbered list. Use "if-then" charts to help people understand options.
List possible situations your subordinate might confront in the "If" column. Then, right next to it in the "Then" column list the response you expect. If it's appropriate, act out your instructions or demonstrate. You may want your subordinate to shadow someone who is already good at the task. Stories are the ways that human beings have made sense of complex issues since the dawn of language. Use stories to help you make your points. Write important instructions down so your subordinate can carry them away and refer to them as needed. Lists and if-then charts are excellent for this.

Rule 3:
Check for understanding. Stop from time to time and check to determine if your subordinate understands your message. Stop if your subordinate gives signs of not understanding. Stop after each key point to check and see if he or she understands. Have your subordinate demonstrate understanding in more than one way. Words alone are excellent. But demonstrations or "what-if" scenarios are excellent, too. Note key trouble points that others have had with similar instructions. Check your subordinate's understanding of each. This may seem like an elaborate way to complete the simple task of giving instructions, but the more you master the techniques and practice them, the more likely you are to succeed.

Good listener

Listening to people is a fine art that needs to practiced. If you are like most people, then chances are you often interrupt others while they are still talking.

......In your defense, you could say that a long winded, one sided conversation is the quickest turn off ever, and while this might be true, it just show basics respect for the other person when we are prepared to listen to them without consistently interrupting their speech.

Eidul Adha...TaqabbalAllahu minna wa minkum

Eid al-Adha (عيد الأضحى‎ ‘Īdu l-’Aḍḥā) "Festival of Sacrifice" or "Greater Eid" is a holiday celebrated by muslim worldwide to commemorate the willingness of Ibrahim to sacrifice his son as an act of obedience to God.

Eid al-Adha is the latter of two Eid festivals celebrated by Muslims, whose basis comes from the Quran….Like Eid al Fitr, Eid al-Adha begins with a short prayer followed by a sermon (khutba).
Eid al-Adha annually falls on the 10th day of the month of ذو الحجة of the lunar Islamic calendar. The festivities last for three days or more depending on the country. Eid al-Adha occurs the day after the pilgrims conducting Hajj, the annual pilgrimage to Mecca in Saudi Arabia by Muslims worldwide, descend from Mount Arafat. It happens to be approximately 70 days after the end of the month of Ramadan...

The slaughtering day…Idul qurban and practise of detachment. Here we go again. As we are entering Hari Raya Haji, it is time for the moslems to spare some money to buy cattle(s) to be sacrificed. You will soon see on the side of the roads some cows and goats ready to be slaughtered in the name of God. Soon, you will see depressing and sadistic doings towards the sheeps, goats and cows.

The story behind beheading goats for sacrifice starts from when Ibrahim was asked (or tested) by God to show how obedient he was. God asked Ibrahim to sacrifice his son, Ismail, who was born after Ibrahim was very old. Both of them were in confusion, but then both said that if it is in ordered by God, then they should do it. So, Ibrahim prepared to behead Ismail, and when the knife (or guillotine, or whatever they were using at that era) almost reached Ismail’s neck, he was replaced by a goat (or cow). The moral of the story is, if you want to be blessed by God, you have to sacrifice.

How to make parents very happy

Tell your parents, “Thank you.” Parents can feel unappreciated and taken advantage of when you fail to show gratitude for the things they do for you. Acknowledge their effort, make them a sweet card or simply give them a bear hug from time to time.

Communicate with them openly, honestly and often. Discuss your feelings, friends, boy or girlfriend, peer pressure, schoolwork or your plans for Saturday night. Keep them apprised of the events in your life so they won’t have to worry about what you’re thinking or doing.

Follow the rules of the house. Get in before curfew, finish your work before going out and always be completely honest. You’ll have far less disagreements if they know you’re responsible and trustworthy.

Listen respectfully when your parents talk to you. Take their advice to heart, complete requests quickly and even ask how their day went. Keep your eyes off the television and remove the stereo headphones from your ears to give them your undivided attention.

Try your hardest at everything you do, whether it’s school, work, sports or even household chores. Even if you don’t come home with perfect grades or don’t make the varsity squad, for example, they won’t be disappointed if they’re sure you put in your best effort.

Do your chores without a reminder. Nagging you to take out the trash or straighten your room can put your mom on edge. Consistently complete your tasks and offer to help with theirs when you can.

Hang out with your parents whenever possible. Although it’s great for them to have time alone together, they’ll be happy to know you enjoy seeing movies, having leisurely dinners or walking around the mall with them.

How to tackle a blind date

Some tips on how handled it, and here we go…….

First of all, as with everything, you have to have the right mindset. You write in your e-mail that you usually have some kind of connection to a girl before you go on a date with her. You already have two connections; your mutual friend, and the fact that you have been “set up” by her. I assume that your friend is a girl. She has already “validated” both of you! Think about it, that’s a better start than most guys gets on most dates. And you also have one common interest; that is to meet each other! And how great isn’t that? You’re both “interested”. Not knowing “what she’ll be like” is actually a pretty good thing; you could say that you start at ground zero. Since there are no expectations, you should actually be more comfortable than at a “regular date”, where you will both be “coloured” a little by your last interaction, whether it was by phone or in person.....

I think I have said this before, but I’ll say it again. Don’t treat a date like a job interview!.That means you, shouldn’t be wearing clothes that are not “you”. You should be 100% comfortable in your clothes. A shirt only looks as good as you wear it, so if you’re not used to wear shirts, a t-shirt is fine. Shouldn’t ask her all kind of boring questions. Be overly nervous. I know this is hard. But try to relax. Speak slowly, and pause between words to create suspense for her, and to give yourself time to think about what to say. Be interesting…..You shouldn’t be afraid to say something to upset her a little bit, or make her laugh. You have nothing to lose, and being boring is the absolute worst thing you can do. Have an exit plan. It’s so much better to meet over coffee for a first date, than to do the whole “dinner and a movie” approach. It’s expensive, and if you just don’t feel it for each other, it can also be extremely awkward.

When you meet, be sure to make her comfortable right at the beginning by introducing yourself with an open hand, and by saying your name out clear. This is really “standard procedure”, but shaking hands really helps with getting her comfortable around you.....

Right from the point where you walk out the door, be confident that she is a good girl that is interested in you. And to get the right look in your eyes, have the mentality that she actually thinks you’re pretty,....When you meet her, you meet her at a local café etc. You wear comfortable clothes, and you greet her by shaking hands.You don’t talk about or ask her boring stuff.

This could also be supplied by you looking suspicious in a fun way, like that “creep” was you. Quickly looking from left to right, and back again a few times is almost guaranteed to make her laugh.Again, making a little fun of yourself is a great way to ease the natural tension between you...have fun!, If you manage to have fun, I think everything will be fine......

How to feel good all the time

Stress: The first emotion that kills good moods is stress, if you are living a stressful life style or even if your external environment is promoting stress then you will rarely be able to feel good.

Over eating:Eating is another factor that can change your mood right away, try to eat something while you are full or fill your stomach with soda and you will experience a sudden drop in your mood in few seconds. Only eat when you are Hungary and stop eating before you are full and then food will never make you feel bad.

Guilt: Guilt is a another source of emotional pain that prevents the person from feeling good. I am not talking about the kind of guilt you get when you do something really awful but the guilt I am talking about is the one that results from tiny events such as not exercising on the day you were supposed to exercise or delaying a task that you were supposed to do. These tiny events can result in feelings of guilt that prevents you from feeling good.

There are countless number of items that I can mention that prevents a person from feeling happy but in the end the concept will still be the same. Learning how to become aware of the small events that trigger unwanted emotions will help you prevent them in early stages and will lead you to feeling good all the time.

Successful group discussion

When it comes to a group discussion, there is no such thing a "too much planning." The planning that you put into a group discussion will often be a reflection of the results. Some of the things that you will want to pay attention to are recruitment issues and the topic that will be discussed.It is important for you to make sure the group is stimulated. One of the things you will want to focus on is choosing the right people to participate in the discussion. In most cases, this will be the task of the moderator.
The quality of the group discussion will be dependent on the people who are chosen to participate. Choose the wrong people, and you will get the wrong results. If you have the time and resources, it may be necessary to someone the task of choosing the right members for the discussion. In a nutshell, the people you choose should be highly qualified to deal with the topic that is being raised. It is also important to make sure you never judge people based on their appearance. This is a mistake that can be made by the leader as well as the other members. Often, the appearance of a person will not have an effect on their ability to contribute to the discussion. In addition to appearance, an emphasis should also not be placed on the educational background of the participants. Just because a member does not have advanced degrees is not a sign that they are not valuable. Obviously, the ideal group discussion will be composed of people who are educated and attractive. However, fantasy and reality are two different things, and these attributes are not crucially relevant in a group discussion.

Another thing that you will want to remember is that gaining a certain objective during a group discussion does not mean it was successful. However it is also important to make sure the members of group stay focused on the topic that is being discussed. It is easy to get off topic, and this can waste time and hurt the ability of the group to reach a desired goal. If you are planning the event, it is important to make sure your presentation is ready. Everything should be organized and prepared. A lack of organization will convey a bad message to the other members, and this is something you will want to avoid. If the members of the group need to be organized for the discussion, it is important for you to let them know this beforehand. If you don't communicate with them effectively, it can cause a number of problems.

Why people fall in love?

It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails. You can analyze his mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore that take the life out of the experience. Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions and commonalities that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.

When this happen to young people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on. They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other person no longer love them, or try to get their love to change, thinking that if some small things were different, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life, their love will grow. They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.

You need to know this about love, and accept it. You need to treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart. If you find yourself someone in love with you but you don't love him back, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage; do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with yourself. All our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it nor to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time. Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can. There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this and keep it to your heart. Love has its time, its own season, its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. BE GLAD THAT IT CAME TO LIVE FOR A MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE. If you keep you heart open, it will come again...

How to make a strong first impressions with others

You only get one chance to make a good first impression. Wether you are at a party, a job interview, or on a date, your first impression will set the tone for your relationship with the other people. Your impression can make you stand out and get that job, make a new friend, and even get a second date. Here are the steps to make lasting impressions on others.

Look into a mirror and smile! Just before you enter a room for the first time or meet someone new, step into the bathroom and smile into the mirror. Speaking with a smile on your face will give your voice a positive tone, and will help to shift your mood if you are feeling down. While you are looking at your smile, take note of your general appearance. Make sure your clothing looks good, and that you have nothing out of place.

Listen to others when they speak. It has been said that God gave us one mouth and two ears for a reason: to listen twice as much as we speak. When someone shares an interesting story, listen with genuine interest and sincerity. Resist the urge to one up their story with one of yours, and instead encourage others to talk about themselves.

Squash your bad mood. If you are about to meet someone for the fist time, forget all of your troubles and be happy. Don't unload or "vent " on someone new. Whiners leave a poor impression on others in almost every way. Look for the silver lining in every situation, look at the glass as half full, and make lemons out of lemonade if needed... but always remain positive.

Be nice and flatter others. Focus on the accomplishments of others and share positive and affirming insights. Show appreciation if applicable, as appreciation will tend to win over most anyone. Also, be careful not to overdue your compliments, as that may leave you looking like you are just sucking up.

Make eye contact! Looking into the eyes of another is sometimes a difficult task for anyone, let alone someone you just met. When you meet someone for the first time, catch their eyesight for a few seconds, and smile when you speak. You will project a positive mood, and you will appear to be interested in the other person.

Thinking outside the box

To be creative, is to have the capacity to think freely, openly, without limitations or constraints about problems and challenges confronting our life reality. When we are creative, we tend to see opportunities and possibilities that we would normally filter out of our personal experience. Creativity allows us to think outside of the box, around the box and through the box in an imaginative and free flowing manner.In today’s day and age, our ability to think creatively about our life circumstances will help us to overcome the never ending problems and challenges that a “normal enriching” life throws our way. In retrospect, there are a plethora of strategies, techniques and tools that we could utilize to enhance our creative capacity, however for many people, these methods would be futile, because creativity first begins within the mind. If our mindset isn’t aligned and tuned into the “creative thinking channel”, than we will severely struggle to find the creative answers we are so desperately searching for.

A certain set of qualities, beliefs, methods of talking to themselves, asking the right kinds of questions and taking strategic actions that naturally cultivate creativity within the recesses of their minds. By consistently and persistently instilling these traits into your psyche, will help you to supercharge your mind and unlock your capacity for creative thought. Flexible in thought, opinion and in the decisions they make on a daily basis. Flexibility naturally encourages “outside the box” thinking which expands possibilities and opportunities. Persistently thinks about the possibilities that are available to them at any one moment in time. They fully understand that focusing on “possibilities” will expand opportunities, conversely, paying attention to “limitations” will only attract a greater array of problems into their lives. Fully understands that without “risk” there can be no worthwhile rewards. They therefore take risks by thinking differently, by taking chances, and by utilizing creative techniques and strategies in a unique, untried and unorthadox manner. Fully focused and locked mentally on the goals they seek to achieve. They dare not break this lock until the moment their objectives are fully realized within their physical reality. Constantly moving forward towards their objectives. This doesn’t mean being “action oriented” 24/7. However, it does mean focusing your body and mind on tasks and activities that keep you moving forward towards your goals consistently every single day. They always ask themselves “Is this activity taking me closer to my goals, or is it pulling me away?” The answer redirects their thinking and actions towards their creative objectives.

Never give up on your dreams

Dream Big If you truly believe that you are the creator of your world and that your thoughts create your reality, don't hold back. Make your life the masterpiece it is meant to be. It's only you who sets the limit of your success. ...and if you do have big dreams, don't think it is greedy to want more wealth, health and happiness - it is your birthright.
You must KNOW that you will achieve the dreams you desire. If you have doubts, you will sabotage your efforts. You will unconsciously stop yourself from doing the things that are needed to succeed. You'll start to make excuses. So you need faith. Faith in yourself and faith that these universal laws exist. But don't just sit at home doing nothing and expecting something. I believe that if you work with the universal laws, for every step you take towards your goals, they take two towards you. In other words, working with the universal laws makes it easier for success, but you still need to take action.

Be aware of your natural cycles And be aware that during low times you may have low energy, and low belief in yourself. This is where you must be aware of your thoughts.

When you are feeling a little low try reading some motivational or inspirational books. If they don't work then press 'pause' on the dream in your mind. Avoid the doubts and worries that will push away your chances of success. Take some time out and do other stuff and when you're feeling good again press 'play' again and go for it big time.
On your journey you will make lots of mistakes, I've certainly had many, but don't see them as mistakes, see them as lessons. Take an objective view at what has gone wrong and learn from it... and make sure you don't do it again.

What makes a happy workplace

Everyone wants to work in a positive and happy environment. No one wants to work at a job in which everyone is bickering and just putting in his or her time to get paid. A happy workplace is one in which management and other employees recognize and offer praise to workers for their good work. An employee that does a good job and gets the job done correctly likes to hear some appreciation for his or her work and efforts. Without any recognition or praise, an employee doesn't know if her work efforts are known or appreciated. When a company has the necessary equipment and materials to make a job easier to do, the employee can do his job more proficiently and correctly. A company that is constantly having down time because of outdated equipment or shabby materials will see a decrease in performance and employee morale.
A happy workplace is one that offers words of encouragement to employees. How a company treats the employees will be reflected in their work. If a company treats employees with little regard, they have no motivation to complete the work. A company should treat each employee with respect and talk to that person as a person and not just as an employee.A workplace that has happy employees has some teamwork. Co-workers work together to complete projects and help each other. They form friendships that may spread to outside of work. The employee comes to work happy and leaves happy because she enjoys her job and her friends. However, some workplace friendships tend to ignore others in the workplace, and cliques are formed that can make others feel alienated. Happiness in the workplace should include everyone, not just a select few.

Reasons to feel good about your life

Life is not just about eating, sleeping, working and again going back to the same pattern. It is more than that. We are here on this earth to do better things but we need motivation or inspiration to reach that level from where we can see the world from a new perspective.Life has a purpose. We are human beings and our existence unlike animals is beyond mere existence. You have a vision to do something in life and possibly to offer something special to others. Unknown to you others are expecting a lot from you. However you need motivation or inspiration to realize the importance of your goal. Motivation or inspiration encourages you to take action today for a better tomorrow. You cannot see your future but right now your present is in front of you. For your life is a mission and when you are on a mission you cannot quit half way.
Whatever you have is precious. There are people who always complain about their lives. They say they have got nothing to be pleased about. How wrong are they! You need motivation or inspiration to understand the value of your possessions. Everything that you have today in the form of your experiences, associations, talents, qualifications etc are priceless. However due to lack of motivation or inspiration your negative feelings have blindfolded your eyes. You cannot see your true self. Lack of motivation or inspiration has made you think that the time is not right yet to act. As you wait for the right time opportunities slip by you. When you get motivation or inspiration you feel good about your present and learn to cherish your achievements. You get the urge to do more. This is the time to start a new beginning as the clock strikes go.

Cure for H1N1

This article is about an anise‐like spice. For the evergreen shrub called "star anise" in the Eastern United States, see Illicium floridanum.

Star anise
Star anise fruits (Illicium verum)

Scientific classification
Kingdom: Plantae
Division: Magnoliophyta
Class: Magnoliopsida
Order: Austrobaileyales
Family: Illiciaceae
Genus: Illicium
Species: I. verum
Binomial name
Illicium verum
Hook.f.
Star anise, star aniseed, badiane or Chinese star anise, (Chinese: __, pinyin: bājiǎo, lit. "eighthorn";
Malayalam: _______) is a spice that closely resembles anise in flavor, obtained from
the star‐shaped pericarp of Illicium verum, a small native evergreen tree of southwest China. The star shaped fruits are harvested just before ripening. It is widely used in Chinese cuisine, in Indian cuisine where it is a major component of garam masala, and in Malay–Indonesian cuisine. It is widely grown for commercial use in China, India, and most other countries in Asia. Star anise is an ingredient of the traditional five‐spice powder of Chinese cooking. It is also a major ingredient in the making of ph, a Vietnamese noodle soup. It is used as a spice in preparation of Biryani in Andhra Pradesh, a state of southern India. In Marathi, it is called BarDan which literally means "spice with twelve seeds".

Usages

Star anise (Bunga Lawang) Cure for H1N1 ?

Culinary uses

Star anise contains anethole, the same ingredient which gives the unrelated anise its flavor. Recently, star anise has come into use in the West as a less expensive substitute for anise in baking as well as in liquor production, most distinctively in the production of the liquor Galliano. It is also used in the production of Sambuca, pastis, and many types of absinthe.

Medicinal uses

Star anise has been used in a tea as a remedy for rheumatism, and the seeds are sometimes chewed after meals to aid digestion. As a warm and moving herb, Ba Jiao is used to assist in relieving cold‐stagnation in the middle jiao, according to TCM. Shikimic acid, a primary feedstock used to create the anti‐flu drug Tamiflu, is produced by most autotrophic organisms, but star anise is the industrial source. In 2005, there was a temporary shortage of star anise due to its use in making Tamiflu. Late in that year, a way was found of making shikimic acid artificially. Roche now derives some of the raw material it needs from fermenting E. coli bacteria. The 2009 swine flu (H1N1) outbreak led to another series of shortages as stocks of Tamiflu were built up around the world, sending prices soaring.[1]

Star anise is grown in four provinces in China and harvested between March and May. Its also found in the south of New South Wales. The shikimic acid is extracted from the seeds in a tenstage manufacturing process which takes a year. Reports say 90% of the harvest is already used by the Swiss pharmaceutical manufacturer Roche in making Tamiflu, but other reports say there is an abundance of the spice in the main regions ‐ Fujian, Guangdong, Guangxi and
Yunnan.

Japanese star anise (Illicium anisatum), a similar tree, is not edible because it is highly toxic (due to containing sikimitoxin); instead, it has been burned as incense in Japan. Cases of illness, including "serious neurological effects, such as seizures", reported after using star anise tea may be a result of using this species. Japanese star anise contains anisatin, which causes severe inflammation of the kidneys, urinary tract and digestive organs.

Basic guide to body language

Actions speak louder than words. A guy would say one thing, but his body will tell you another. Body language is a subconscious way of giving himself away. If you are confused and still trying to figure out whether or not a guy has the hots for you, then it is best to check out this list of positive and negative body language. If a guy does more good body signs than bad signs, then there is a possibility that he is attracted to you.

However, it is best to be careful in doing and interpreting body language. Not everyone is comfortable with intimate body movements like being too close or touching his arm. For instance, if you lean too close to a guy, he might think your are overly aggressive or invading his space. In case he becomes queasy about it, apologize and put an ample distance between the two of you. At least that would give him a signal that you are sincere and caring.

Positive Body Language

He has good eye contact – Looking at another guy's eyes is one of the easiest ways to check if he is interested in you. If his eyes look friendly and show sincerity to you, then getting along with him won't be much of a problem.

His legs are slightly apart – Like straight men, gay men tend to make themselves attractive to other guys through their body positions. Putting their legs slightly apart make them appear taller, hotter, and more attractive. If he does this to you, then he is probably trying to catch your attention. You could probably even take a little peek downward if he's trying to show off his package. He twirls his hair – You may think it's a girl thing, but combing his hair (especially above the ear) using his fingers is a sign of attraction. If he tries to twirl your hair gently, then let him do so.

His smile is wide open – You cannot fake a good smile. If the guy smiles widely, even showing the laugh lines or crow's feet if the guy's a bit more mature, then he has genuine fascination or attraction for you. Some guys would even smile to show their dimples.

Interpreting a Woman's Body Language

Guys often resort to cheesy pick up lines or conventional dating strategies to get them through meeting women. They are often unsuccessful since they have missed on acquiring the most efficient ways on how to read their body language. The solution lies on how well you can read her reaction to the things you've said while engaging in a conversation.Women consciously try to conceal their responses and resorts to backing off when confronted with men who appear to be too aggressive or too weird, but on the other hand extend their flirting signals to men they find appealing.

The following signs indicate an interpretation of a women's body language.

Hair patting - A woman somehow feels unsure of herself when faced with a man she's interested in and would try to touch or fix her hair in a casual manner to see if it's still neatly in place and it doesn't get in your view of her face.

Her posture - When she suddenly mantains an upright posture and tries to check you underhandedly, this means you got her attention. She pushes her hair on the back or sides and has her toes pointing your way when she crosses her legs. It's your cue to approach her.Both raised eyebrows - A woman's eyebrows can disclose much of what she feels. Both her eyebrows raised when looking towards you spells her curiosity. When only one eyebrow is arched, it may mean that she's examining you still but the attraction has yet to exist.

The challenge of the Qur'an

Works of literature have been instruments of human expression and creativity in all cultures. The world also witnessed an age when such works of literature occupied pride of position similar to that now enjoyed by science and technology.
Muslims as well as non Muslims agree that the Qur'an is Arabic literature par excellence, that it is the best Arabic literature on the face of the earth.