How to tackle a blind date

Some tips on how handled it, and here we go…….

First of all, as with everything, you have to have the right mindset. You write in your e-mail that you usually have some kind of connection to a girl before you go on a date with her. You already have two connections; your mutual friend, and the fact that you have been “set up” by her. I assume that your friend is a girl. She has already “validated” both of you! Think about it, that’s a better start than most guys gets on most dates. And you also have one common interest; that is to meet each other! And how great isn’t that? You’re both “interested”. Not knowing “what she’ll be like” is actually a pretty good thing; you could say that you start at ground zero. Since there are no expectations, you should actually be more comfortable than at a “regular date”, where you will both be “coloured” a little by your last interaction, whether it was by phone or in person.....

I think I have said this before, but I’ll say it again. Don’t treat a date like a job interview!.That means you, shouldn’t be wearing clothes that are not “you”. You should be 100% comfortable in your clothes. A shirt only looks as good as you wear it, so if you’re not used to wear shirts, a t-shirt is fine. Shouldn’t ask her all kind of boring questions. Be overly nervous. I know this is hard. But try to relax. Speak slowly, and pause between words to create suspense for her, and to give yourself time to think about what to say. Be interesting…..You shouldn’t be afraid to say something to upset her a little bit, or make her laugh. You have nothing to lose, and being boring is the absolute worst thing you can do. Have an exit plan. It’s so much better to meet over coffee for a first date, than to do the whole “dinner and a movie” approach. It’s expensive, and if you just don’t feel it for each other, it can also be extremely awkward.

When you meet, be sure to make her comfortable right at the beginning by introducing yourself with an open hand, and by saying your name out clear. This is really “standard procedure”, but shaking hands really helps with getting her comfortable around you.....

Right from the point where you walk out the door, be confident that she is a good girl that is interested in you. And to get the right look in your eyes, have the mentality that she actually thinks you’re pretty,....When you meet her, you meet her at a local café etc. You wear comfortable clothes, and you greet her by shaking hands.You don’t talk about or ask her boring stuff.

This could also be supplied by you looking suspicious in a fun way, like that “creep” was you. Quickly looking from left to right, and back again a few times is almost guaranteed to make her laugh.Again, making a little fun of yourself is a great way to ease the natural tension between you...have fun!, If you manage to have fun, I think everything will be fine......

How to feel good all the time

Stress: The first emotion that kills good moods is stress, if you are living a stressful life style or even if your external environment is promoting stress then you will rarely be able to feel good.

Over eating:Eating is another factor that can change your mood right away, try to eat something while you are full or fill your stomach with soda and you will experience a sudden drop in your mood in few seconds. Only eat when you are Hungary and stop eating before you are full and then food will never make you feel bad.

Guilt: Guilt is a another source of emotional pain that prevents the person from feeling good. I am not talking about the kind of guilt you get when you do something really awful but the guilt I am talking about is the one that results from tiny events such as not exercising on the day you were supposed to exercise or delaying a task that you were supposed to do. These tiny events can result in feelings of guilt that prevents you from feeling good.

There are countless number of items that I can mention that prevents a person from feeling happy but in the end the concept will still be the same. Learning how to become aware of the small events that trigger unwanted emotions will help you prevent them in early stages and will lead you to feeling good all the time.

Successful group discussion

When it comes to a group discussion, there is no such thing a "too much planning." The planning that you put into a group discussion will often be a reflection of the results. Some of the things that you will want to pay attention to are recruitment issues and the topic that will be discussed.It is important for you to make sure the group is stimulated. One of the things you will want to focus on is choosing the right people to participate in the discussion. In most cases, this will be the task of the moderator.
The quality of the group discussion will be dependent on the people who are chosen to participate. Choose the wrong people, and you will get the wrong results. If you have the time and resources, it may be necessary to someone the task of choosing the right members for the discussion. In a nutshell, the people you choose should be highly qualified to deal with the topic that is being raised. It is also important to make sure you never judge people based on their appearance. This is a mistake that can be made by the leader as well as the other members. Often, the appearance of a person will not have an effect on their ability to contribute to the discussion. In addition to appearance, an emphasis should also not be placed on the educational background of the participants. Just because a member does not have advanced degrees is not a sign that they are not valuable. Obviously, the ideal group discussion will be composed of people who are educated and attractive. However, fantasy and reality are two different things, and these attributes are not crucially relevant in a group discussion.

Another thing that you will want to remember is that gaining a certain objective during a group discussion does not mean it was successful. However it is also important to make sure the members of group stay focused on the topic that is being discussed. It is easy to get off topic, and this can waste time and hurt the ability of the group to reach a desired goal. If you are planning the event, it is important to make sure your presentation is ready. Everything should be organized and prepared. A lack of organization will convey a bad message to the other members, and this is something you will want to avoid. If the members of the group need to be organized for the discussion, it is important for you to let them know this beforehand. If you don't communicate with them effectively, it can cause a number of problems.

Why people fall in love?

It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails. You can analyze his mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore that take the life out of the experience. Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions and commonalities that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.

When this happen to young people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on. They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other person no longer love them, or try to get their love to change, thinking that if some small things were different, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life, their love will grow. They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.

You need to know this about love, and accept it. You need to treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart. If you find yourself someone in love with you but you don't love him back, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage; do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with yourself. All our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it nor to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time. Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can. There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this and keep it to your heart. Love has its time, its own season, its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. BE GLAD THAT IT CAME TO LIVE FOR A MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE. If you keep you heart open, it will come again...

How to make a strong first impressions with others

You only get one chance to make a good first impression. Wether you are at a party, a job interview, or on a date, your first impression will set the tone for your relationship with the other people. Your impression can make you stand out and get that job, make a new friend, and even get a second date. Here are the steps to make lasting impressions on others.

Look into a mirror and smile! Just before you enter a room for the first time or meet someone new, step into the bathroom and smile into the mirror. Speaking with a smile on your face will give your voice a positive tone, and will help to shift your mood if you are feeling down. While you are looking at your smile, take note of your general appearance. Make sure your clothing looks good, and that you have nothing out of place.

Listen to others when they speak. It has been said that God gave us one mouth and two ears for a reason: to listen twice as much as we speak. When someone shares an interesting story, listen with genuine interest and sincerity. Resist the urge to one up their story with one of yours, and instead encourage others to talk about themselves.

Squash your bad mood. If you are about to meet someone for the fist time, forget all of your troubles and be happy. Don't unload or "vent " on someone new. Whiners leave a poor impression on others in almost every way. Look for the silver lining in every situation, look at the glass as half full, and make lemons out of lemonade if needed... but always remain positive.

Be nice and flatter others. Focus on the accomplishments of others and share positive and affirming insights. Show appreciation if applicable, as appreciation will tend to win over most anyone. Also, be careful not to overdue your compliments, as that may leave you looking like you are just sucking up.

Make eye contact! Looking into the eyes of another is sometimes a difficult task for anyone, let alone someone you just met. When you meet someone for the first time, catch their eyesight for a few seconds, and smile when you speak. You will project a positive mood, and you will appear to be interested in the other person.

Thinking outside the box

To be creative, is to have the capacity to think freely, openly, without limitations or constraints about problems and challenges confronting our life reality. When we are creative, we tend to see opportunities and possibilities that we would normally filter out of our personal experience. Creativity allows us to think outside of the box, around the box and through the box in an imaginative and free flowing manner.In today’s day and age, our ability to think creatively about our life circumstances will help us to overcome the never ending problems and challenges that a “normal enriching” life throws our way. In retrospect, there are a plethora of strategies, techniques and tools that we could utilize to enhance our creative capacity, however for many people, these methods would be futile, because creativity first begins within the mind. If our mindset isn’t aligned and tuned into the “creative thinking channel”, than we will severely struggle to find the creative answers we are so desperately searching for.

A certain set of qualities, beliefs, methods of talking to themselves, asking the right kinds of questions and taking strategic actions that naturally cultivate creativity within the recesses of their minds. By consistently and persistently instilling these traits into your psyche, will help you to supercharge your mind and unlock your capacity for creative thought. Flexible in thought, opinion and in the decisions they make on a daily basis. Flexibility naturally encourages “outside the box” thinking which expands possibilities and opportunities. Persistently thinks about the possibilities that are available to them at any one moment in time. They fully understand that focusing on “possibilities” will expand opportunities, conversely, paying attention to “limitations” will only attract a greater array of problems into their lives. Fully understands that without “risk” there can be no worthwhile rewards. They therefore take risks by thinking differently, by taking chances, and by utilizing creative techniques and strategies in a unique, untried and unorthadox manner. Fully focused and locked mentally on the goals they seek to achieve. They dare not break this lock until the moment their objectives are fully realized within their physical reality. Constantly moving forward towards their objectives. This doesn’t mean being “action oriented” 24/7. However, it does mean focusing your body and mind on tasks and activities that keep you moving forward towards your goals consistently every single day. They always ask themselves “Is this activity taking me closer to my goals, or is it pulling me away?” The answer redirects their thinking and actions towards their creative objectives.

Never give up on your dreams

Dream Big If you truly believe that you are the creator of your world and that your thoughts create your reality, don't hold back. Make your life the masterpiece it is meant to be. It's only you who sets the limit of your success. ...and if you do have big dreams, don't think it is greedy to want more wealth, health and happiness - it is your birthright.
You must KNOW that you will achieve the dreams you desire. If you have doubts, you will sabotage your efforts. You will unconsciously stop yourself from doing the things that are needed to succeed. You'll start to make excuses. So you need faith. Faith in yourself and faith that these universal laws exist. But don't just sit at home doing nothing and expecting something. I believe that if you work with the universal laws, for every step you take towards your goals, they take two towards you. In other words, working with the universal laws makes it easier for success, but you still need to take action.

Be aware of your natural cycles And be aware that during low times you may have low energy, and low belief in yourself. This is where you must be aware of your thoughts.

When you are feeling a little low try reading some motivational or inspirational books. If they don't work then press 'pause' on the dream in your mind. Avoid the doubts and worries that will push away your chances of success. Take some time out and do other stuff and when you're feeling good again press 'play' again and go for it big time.
On your journey you will make lots of mistakes, I've certainly had many, but don't see them as mistakes, see them as lessons. Take an objective view at what has gone wrong and learn from it... and make sure you don't do it again.

What makes a happy workplace

Everyone wants to work in a positive and happy environment. No one wants to work at a job in which everyone is bickering and just putting in his or her time to get paid. A happy workplace is one in which management and other employees recognize and offer praise to workers for their good work. An employee that does a good job and gets the job done correctly likes to hear some appreciation for his or her work and efforts. Without any recognition or praise, an employee doesn't know if her work efforts are known or appreciated. When a company has the necessary equipment and materials to make a job easier to do, the employee can do his job more proficiently and correctly. A company that is constantly having down time because of outdated equipment or shabby materials will see a decrease in performance and employee morale.
A happy workplace is one that offers words of encouragement to employees. How a company treats the employees will be reflected in their work. If a company treats employees with little regard, they have no motivation to complete the work. A company should treat each employee with respect and talk to that person as a person and not just as an employee.A workplace that has happy employees has some teamwork. Co-workers work together to complete projects and help each other. They form friendships that may spread to outside of work. The employee comes to work happy and leaves happy because she enjoys her job and her friends. However, some workplace friendships tend to ignore others in the workplace, and cliques are formed that can make others feel alienated. Happiness in the workplace should include everyone, not just a select few.